10
April
2011
In society today, many teens tend to stick in a relationship that is unhealthy. These unhealthy relationships consist of arguments, tears, physically and mentally abuse. I see so many teens with my own eyes that are with someone who don’t deserve them. I see them put so much of their effort and time into a relationship yet the partners does nothing. A relationship is connection between two person not just one person and if you are the only one putting the effort is then it’s not a relationship anymore. Teens are holding on to something that no longer wants to be held on to. If reading this and it applies to you ask yourself “Is this worth fighting for?” I bet the question would get you ever time. Relationship like this is something you don’t need to encounter if you just have the strength to walk away. I know it’s hard to get out of one because you have strong feelings for this person or you “love” them. But the longer you stay in a relationship that isn’t going to work out then the harder it will be to get out. The reason being the longer you stay the more feelings you develop for the person so if you left earlier you wouldn’t have as much feelings developed. Second reason is because you would have less memories of the relationship. Memories are something that holds a person back too. Because reminiscing about the memories makes you miss the person which makes things harder. I’m someone who have encountered a relationship like this before. I didn’t have the strength to walk away. I went through the bumps on the road alone. Going through the bumps alone and always trying to find a solution made me so frustrated because nothing seems to work. Sometimes I would be so frustrated I would cry. I would to lie in bed with tears in my eyes at staring at the ceiling wondering what I did wrong to deserve this and I bet you ask yourself the same question. The answer to that question is, you didn’t do anything wrong, no one did. It just that the person you are with thinks “its okay I can do whatever I want. I know he/she will always come running back to me. He/she has been putting all their effort into this relationship. They are just going to let it all down the drain.” What they don’t know is that people have their limit. They can put up with so much that when it’s too much they can’t handle it, they explode. When you are in a relationship and all it contains is arguments then I suggest you to think twice about it. If you keep this relationship going for too long you it will hurt you. You would start pushing people away because you would always want to be alone. Your mind would start to wonder somewhere else because there is so much on your mind. This will affect your education and your education at this point is important. School should be on the top if your list. What shouldn’t be on the list is a boyfriend/girlfriend. So please think twice if you are a relationship like this. I know it’s hard to get out of one because you’re feelings for that person has gotten stronger than ever but trust me it would be worth it in the end. I myself have gone through this before and it was one of the hardest things I had to overcome. I wished I would’ve realize these things earlier. It’s never too late to have the strength to get up and walk away from something like this. This doesn’t signify that you are weak, it’s signify that you are stronger enough to walk away.
-Fatty
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5
April
2011
Every parents want their child to graduate high school, go to college and graduate with a job then find their soul mate. Teens in our society doesn’t have that aspect in mind. Their goal in high school other than education is finding their “true love” but there are some exceptions. Most teens/students doesn’t realize that they have so much more to explore in the world before they lock themselves with someone. Boyfriend/girlfriend affect many teens in high school. Whether they are looking for a relationship or are in a relationship. When a teen is not in a relationship they feel lonely. They feel as if no one wants them and that other teens with make fun of them for not having a significant other. These feelings can lead to depression. When teens are in a relationship they tend to get into many arguments with one another whether is over something big or little. They loose sleep throughout the night and during the day all they can think about is the problem with that person. Another affect that relationship have on teens is when they are going through a breakup. They feels as if the world is falling apart and they have no reason to live without that person. The truth is, if you are meant to be with someone it will happen. Some way or another you two will get back together. My advice to teens is don’t worry about finding a soul mate because once you graduate high school and move on you will run into many different other people. You will get to know people with different personality and goals in life. I’m sure you will find someone that will fit your standards. So if your significant other breaks up with you it’s not the end of the world. You have lived without them once you can do it again. It will just take time. Time heals all wound.
-Fatty
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26
March
2011
Many teens’ advice to their friends when harsh words are said to them is “Words don’t hurt, it makes you stronger”. Honestly words are just as strong as actions. Yeah at first the things people say may not get to you but once it’s constantly said it get stuck in your head. You then start to question yourself “Am I really ugly?” In result of those words constantly repeating in your head it makes you insecure. Insecurity goes into depression and depression becomes a suicide. Many students are going through this whether it’s their friends, family, significant other, or just stranger saying negatives things about them. I believe this is a huge problem in society today. People constantly judge one another without even knowing their name. I mean I know everyone judges but there are certain extend you can go to. For example, when a friend says “You’re fat ahahah just kidding. When those words are spoken by your own friend its hurts more even though they said they were kidding. It’s like you been stab with words because they are the ones who should accept you for who you are and shouldn’t be the one teasing you about these things. It makes you feel like you’re ugly and you start to point out every flaw of yours. You start to realize all the negative things about yourself and you become depress. When you are depressed you start to push everyone else out of your life. In the end you tell yourself there is no point in living anymore since no one’s even there for you. Words are like domino to death, saying one word can led to many things. My advice to everyone is, thinking about what you say whether it’s towards your family, friends or significant other. People can take things the wrong way and take it to the heart instead of where you intend it to go. Words are just as powerful as actions.
-Fatty
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26
March
2011
Practice isn’t everything if you can’t put the skill you have into games. Games days are important to all sports. It shows how much you have worked on that certain skill and it shows people who well you play. For me game days are the most nerve racking days in my high school years. Right before the game I’m all calm. I do my warm ups and run my drills as if it’s just a regular day at practice. People say, “the way you practices is the way to play”. In my opinion I don’t believe that that is true. The reason being is because I play a lot better during my practices than on games days. I know what people may think oh she is just saying that to make herself feel better. The truth is, on game days all my nerve and adrenaline rushes through my body. I get super nervous when I’m on court. I have all these butterflies in me. Seeing all those people makes it harder too. I feel as if every mistake I make everyone will notice. But I learn to ignore all of the distractions, they are they to support you, not to make fun of you. If they were to make fun of me I have to be the bigger person and ignore it. Every game day I tell myself, who cares what people think, who cares if you make mistakes as long as I try my best. In the end win or lose it doesn’t matter, all that matter was having fun with my teammates.
-Fatty
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26
March
2011
Juggling school work and a sport isn’t as easy as it may seem. Everyone thinks that students should have the energy to play a sport after school. What people don’t know is how hard it is. Every day student have practice and sometimes they just want time to themselves after a long day. Sometimes students are going through a rough time or having a bad day and all they want is a day to themselves instead of going to practice. Practices isn’t horrible but when you are having a bad day and the coach is yelling at you, it make things worse than it already is. My life as a athlete isn’t as easy as saying 123. Everyone thinks sport are easy. They think all you do it just bump, set it, and spike, or you run with the ball trying to score a goal. The thing they don’t know is that you have the bump the ball a certain way and there people in your way when you are trying to make a goal. I go to practice every day trying to perfect these steps. Every wrong I do, I got disciplined for. The discipline could be running around the gym or doing another set of workout. These discipline made me exhausted but I knew that I had to do it in order to become a better player. After practices all I want to do is go home, take a shower, eat dinner and go straight to bed but that’s not the case for most of us. Most of the time I end up having loads of homework to complete and staying up all night doing them. Other days like day before a big test, I stay up all night trying to stick the information I need for the test into my little brain. We wake up the next day looking like a zombie going to school because of the lack of sleep we have. There are times when we don’t do as well planned and starts to worry about our grades. When grades are down, we stressed about it. In the end of it all being a students and a athlete isn’t as easy as parent think is it.
-Fatty
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25
March
2011
Hello! Welcome to my everyday struggles. My name is Moose. I’m raised and born in Sacramento California. I attend Hiram Johnson High School. My blog is all about my weekly life at Hiram Johnson and the struggles that come along. My days at Johnson consist of laughter, smiles, fun, work, sleepless nights, tears,exhaustion, and much more.
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